Wildflower

Last week my sisters and I spent a week together in a campground about an hour away from my house near Shippensburg, PA.  My oldest sister, Cathy, was in their motorhome.  Amy, Carol, and I were in a tiny cabin right in the next campsite.  It was a great way to spend the week.  We cooked together, hiked on the Appalachian Trail, floated in the pool, played games, had campfires and just spent time with each other.  It was so much fun.  As the week went by we joked that we needed to quit having fun and spend the time just sitting looking at each other so time would slow down and prolong our time together.  It didn’t work. The week flew by.

The campground was along the ridge at the top of the mountain.  So every walk or hike started out going downhill and ended up finishing going uphill. As Carol and I were headed up the hill to the campground one day we saw a “wildflower”  which many people would describe as a weed.  That little purple wildflower was growing up through the gravel on the side of the road. A tough place for any weed or flower to grow and thrive,  Yet here it was decorating the side of the road with its beauty. 

I just finished up my grief coach training last week while I was on vacation.  One of the things we learned about in coach training was that in the early stages grief is like a boulder that falls on you.  No matter how hard you try to lift that boulder off of you, you can not move it.  The boulder is too big and too heavy.  You are trapped by the weight of the boulder.  In the early stages you can’t see past that boulder.  But as time goes by with help and support you realize that the boulder is not a solid rock. The boulder is made up of sand, gravel, pebbles, stones, and rocks and little by little you chip away at the sand, pebbles, stones and rock and you begin to move the boulder.  Little by little the boulder becomes smaller. 

It is like clearing a space for a garden.  You decide you want to make a garden, but the soil is rocky.  You find the right tools to help you move the rocks from your garden so you can plant flowers and vegetables in the soil.   You find the shovel, the buckets, the wheelbarrow and you clear the soil of the rocks that are in the way. With the right tools you can create a lovely garden. 

If you are wondering how you can move your boulder of grief. I can help you.  I can equip you with the right tools to clear the sand, gravel, pebbles, stones and rock, so you can move the boulder. I can teach you the skills you can use to heal from the grief and pain of loss.  I have done the work.  I have been where you are trapped underneath the boulder of grief.  I never thought I would ever heal from the pain of loss.  But one day I realized that I wanted to figure out how to live.  I wasn’t sure how I was going to do it.  But I was sick and tired of always being sick and tired.  I was tired of scrolling on facebook and watching dumb Hallmark movies.  I was tired of sitting back and watching other people live and not having a life of my own.  

That is when  I stumbled upon life coaching.  I believe I was led there by divine intervention.  I hired a life coach to help me stop overdrinking.  Not only did I cut back by at least 85% on my drinking.  I also worked on every other area in my life.  I took the tools Angela taught me and I ran with it.  I used them to begin to heal my pain and my grief. I still have moments of darkness and grief.  The difference is the dark days aren’t quite as dark and the dark days don’t last quite as long.  I have learned to recognize the old crappy thoughts and I have learned how to replace them with new ones.  Ones that I want to think.  I never realized I could choose how I want to think and how to feel.  We are in general  not taught how to feel and process our emotions. We say “I can’t help how I feel.”  In reality you can choose how you want to think and feel in any situation.  That is where I can help!

I can help you learn these skills and equip you with the tools to help you begin to heal from the losses in your life.  I am a certified life coach and now a grief coach as well.  I would love to talk with you and offer you a bit of hope that hearts can heal after great pain and great loss.  I can teach you how to feel and process your emotions and I can teach you how you can change those thoughts if you choose too.  

Schedule a free discovery call and let’s talk.  Together we will decide if we are a good fit to work together.  

Until you have a hope of your own let me give you a bit of mine.  

XOXO,

Coach Laura